Satsang
In the Indian tradition, groups of people get together for Satsang. Basically, it means a group gathers to listen to a teacher (guru) speak words of wisdom on how to think, how to live your life. It might sound boring, but I go pretty regularly, and there is always something to learn, something to think about --- and quite often, it would seem that by some magic, the teacher addresses the exact problem that you have been facing. so many people leave feeling as if the whole evening was designed exactly for them.

anyway, here is my paraphrasing of a recent satsang.

Why do we keep thinking about the past? past regrets? past relationships?

Obsessing about the past instead of focusing on the present is nothing but a habit. We need to break free of old tendancies. It is your ego that is involved in this and your ego is pulling you down instead of allowing you to move on. Observe yourself. Your ego will fight you. Your ego wants to hang onto the past. Observe that too.

Life is a play and we each have our part to play on stage. Just play your part. Nothing is real. No need to identify with the part that you play -- just witness your part in the drama.

When you become established in meditation, you can become established in witnessing yourself. When your mind becomes quiet, that is when you can gain some distance and objectivity.

What will change your destiny is a change in your understanding. To evolve, you have to come out of the person you have grown to be.